Building-a-quality-attitude.aspx

A winner has a positive confident attitude about themselves, others and the situations which they find themselves. They realize the subconscious mind has been recording everything they have ever seen, done, smelled, tasted, felt and thought since birth. All of these recordings are called our “old tapes” and these tapes play a large part on how we deal with any current situation.

Very simply, the mind functions on two levels, the conscious and the subconscious. The conscious mind is your decision making tool; the subconscious mind is your computer or memory bank. When you are faced with a decision, the conscious mind sends an order to the subconscious mind to play the memory tapes on that subject. The conscious mind then makes a decision based on the feedback coming from the old tapes and from the current data on the physical level.

The subconscious mind has been recording everything said, heard and done since before birth. But for our discussion let’s just use 16 hours a day to find out how long you have been building these old tapes. Take the formula of 16 x 365 x your age. This means you have only been recording and learning 16 hours per day, 365 days per year, every year you have been alive.
 

The subconscious mind records everything as fact and it does not perceive information in judgmental form. It simply records the thought or action as true. Because of this, it is possible to reprogram the mind to give you the results you desire. The subconscious mind is fertile ground.

We control the information received into the subconscious mind with our self-talk. We spend most of our time alone with our thoughts and doing self-talk. Examples are driving our cars, waiting in line at stores, using the washrooms, etc. We can do this either positively or negatively. Positive self-talk opens the creative mind and frees the positive attitudes and mental resources needed to function in a winning manner. However, negative self-talk locks up your mental resources, your attitudes and your actions. By turning your negative self-talk into positive self-talk and using positive affirmations you can take control of how you act and react to all situations and in all areas of your life.



Desire and fear are the two greatest motivators. They propel or compel us to action, and make themselves visible through our thoughts and words. You are constantly talking - either to others or to yourself. Your life is affected - either positively or negatively - by your current dominant thoughts (your mental dialog or “self-talk”). Negative self-talk sets you up for failure by locking up your mental resources, your attitudes and your actions.


Negative self-talk has a devastating effect on your life and work. On the other hand, positive self-talk has a freeing, expanding effect. There is a simple, two step process for turning any negative thoughts into positive thoughts:

Step number one: Make the decision to turn negative self-talk into positive statements.

You can do this by 1) becoming aware of your own negative self-talk and 2) turning your negative self-talk into positive self-talk.

Step number two: Don't allow others to add negative self-talk to your thinking.

Negative self-talk is often a habit picked up from a parent, co-worker, or a friend. For example, a person might state, “My mother told me I had a terrible memory.” She would say, “You'd forget your head if it wasn't attached to your body!”

The next time someone offers you some of his or her negative statements, don't agree mentally with them. Instead, affirm positive self-talk. Here are some negative statements others may impose on you. What positive self-talk can you use to keep this kind of conversation from affecting you negatively?

“Sure is a lousy day, isn't it?” “I don't trust them, do you?” “I don't think it will work, do you?” “This company doesn't care about us!” “He really made a mess of it, didn't he?”

When someone states something negatively and expects a response from you, you have three choices:

1.) You can ignore the comment and say nothing.
2.) You can agree with the comment.
3.) You can turn it around and help the person see the positive side of the situation

1. Use personal pronouns. Words such as “I”, “my”, “mine” and “me” will personalize your self-talk and will help you internalize it.

Ineffective Self-Talk	Effective Self-Talk
“People are fun to be around.”	“I enjoy being around people”
“Time is money”	“I am well organized and efficient.”

2. Keep your positive self-talk in the present tense. Referring to the past or future dilutes the impact of your self-talk.

Ineffective Self-Talk	Effective Self-Talk
“Someday I'll be successful.”	“I am successful.”
“I am better disciplined than I was.”	“I am well disciplined.”

3. Direct your positive self-talk toward what you desire, not away from what you don't want. You want to focus your current dominant thought on your desires, not your dislikes.

Ineffective Self-Talk	Effective Self-Talk
“I can quit smoking.”	“I am in control of my habits.”
“I will lose 20 pounds.”	“I weigh a slim, trim _____ pounds.”
“I won't worry anymore.”	“I am a confident, optimistic person.”

4. Keep your self-talk noncompetitive, rather than comparing yourself with others.

Ineffective Self-Talk	Effective Self-Talk
“I will become president before he (or she) does.”	“I am president, fully capable of fulfilling my responsibilities.”

Imaging the thing you’re about to do in a positive manner will start you on the road to success. When we speak of imaging, we are talking about seeing what you are about to do, in the mind's eye. This does the same thing as our affirmations. Any time we use self-talk in any form we are dealing with the subconscious mind and begin to program new tapes or reprogram the old tapes.

Many people use negative imaging without realizing it. Just before they do something they begin to think of all the objections and all of the reasons why the project won't work. Then they start to think of how to manipulate the situation so it might work. By the time they get face to face with the person or project they have forgotten any professionalism they might have had and become a loser.

Positive imaging, like positive self-talk and positive affirmations, puts us on target to success. Always look for the good in any situation then begin to image good happening right now. With practice you can create positive experiences anytime and anywhere you desire. This is the sign of excellence in leadership people will follow